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hey this is Leo for actualised org and in this video I'm excited to be talking about how to have amazing sex part two this version here is for guys and we're gonna be specifically talking about how to increase intimacy and dominance like I said this video here is part two so I've got part one which you should go and watch first that's gonna set the foundation for what it means to have amazing sex if you're a guy so basically what we're talking about here is how do you really really really please your girl and at the same time you're also pleasing yourself so go ahead and watch part one and here if you if you're coming from part one part one basically said that there are like two pillars to amazing sex we also talked about some of the psychology that you need to have to bring into the bedroom to have amazing sex and how you need to think about things and I also outline there a lot of the the actual process that I use myself that you can just copy and improvise on yourself but the two pillars I want to go into a lot of depth here because in that video I promised that I would cover these two pillars and I would give you specific exact tangible things that you could do right now tomorrow in your sex life that will increase intimacy and increase dominance and therefore lead to amazing sex if you do this women will go crazy for you they will get addicted to you like a drug because women are emotional creatures and all women love amazing emotional deep dirty intimate hardcore sex so that's what I'm excited to share with you here right off the bat one warning that I need to give you guys is that some of you guys are very overly concerned about mechanics the mechanics of sex as guys we need to think of sex as a physical act I want to challenge you to start to think of sex not as a mechanical activity but as an emotional activity the power of sex lies in emotions especially from the woman's point of view so well here I'm gonna want to tell I'm gonna show you how to do is how to use very simple practical techniques to build up the emotions to amp them up so that both of you can have an amazing experience right it's not about the mechanics it's more about the intent behind the way that you execute stuff you don't need to be some mechanical master or technician who's got all the techniques down that's really not what amazing sex is about it's more about the connection it's more about the attitude that you take and how you make yourself feel and the way that you make yourself feel will then be reflected in her and it'll be a great experience so the two pillars are intimacy and dominance amazing sex comes from having both of these things inter playing with each other in the present moment so I'm gonna talk a little bit more about this towards the end of the video but basically what you're gonna want to do is you don't want to do a 1 to 1 ratio roughly speaking which means one intimate thing for one dominant thing and you're gonna kind of sprinkle them in randomly you're gonna mix them up and you know some nights you'll do something really dominant and some nights maybe the theme will be very intimate and some nights it'll be a mix but generally start off by doing a 1 to 1 ratio then you can improvise on this stuff later as you kind of spice stuff up I'll talk about that later so first let's just go right into tips for how to increase intimacy and then I'm gonna do tips for have increased dominance right and as a guy you're probably going to be resonating much more with how to increase dominance than intimacy because you naturally feel like well I'm a masculine guy I want to be a masculine guy in the bedroom that's kind of what we're assuming here with these videos you know the traditional masculine feminine dynamic is at play here and that will come easy to you to be more masculine and more dominant but here with intimacy I'm almost asking you to be more feminine and it's gonna seem like oh but I don't want to be more feminine that's not right but I want you to open your mind and in fact the thing that you're probably missing in your sex life the most is the intimacy if you're like a regular guy then I find that regular guys are okay with dominance but they're really really bad with intimacy and this is why lots of women complain about bad sex so really challenge yourself remember that you're gonna be sprinkling the intimate stuff in with the dominant stuff so you're not going to be perceived as feminine when you do this in fact it's gonna amplify your dominance right women love this women love being intimate with their man so if you've got any kind of emotional hurdles that you have to overcome to do this intimacy stuff then go ahead and you work that out that's your issue you got to fix that in yourself so one really big way to amp up intimacy is with deep intimate eye contact deep intimate eye contact it's kind of like a soft loving look that you give the girl if you're having sex with her make sure you're looking her in the eyes this is very very important for building that intimate connection if you're having sex I'm not looking your barrel in the eyes you're missing out on a lot of great opportunities just right there the other thing that I like for intimacy is using little words of affectation so little words like baby my little girl hey cutie hey sweetie hey honey this kind of stuff right these little words you can use them in your phone conversations you can use them in your text conversations you can use them in person and then of course you should be using them in the bedroom too oh and by the way if you haven't figured out yet you to be doing lots of conversation and talk when you're having sex don't be the guy who's having sex in silence silent sex is lame sex you should be saying stuff and we're gonna get to that in a minute here so those are some little phrases that you can throw in there and you can start your sentences whatever you want to tell her you can always just preface it with hey baby or hey cutie or hey sweetie or whatever next is just a general theme that you can use is anything that you can do to play up her femininity is a good thing and you should take advantage of that sometimes people ask me hey Leo why do you call women girls girls is like making you sound like a pedophile call women women well you know the reason I call women girls a lot of times is because it plays up that femininity and they actually enjoy that especially when you're talking about an intimate relationship you know call your girl your girl and any other kind of things you can do to play a pro femininity is really good stuff like just holding her hand or leading her around you know you being masked on her being feminine um letting her be comfortable - femininity complimenting her on her femininity complimenting her on her beauty this kind of stuff is really really good right because in the end what do you want in the bedroom you want her to be very very feminine right so start setting that frame long before you actually get her in the bedroom and then she'll naturally have that frame already said and she'll just play that role when you are in the bedroom all right and you can also compliment her when she's having sex with you and she's being very hot and dirty and feminine you can compliment her on that too and that will reinforce her femininity it'll make her feel like she can be feminine around you and you want her to feel safe and open to do that right don't don't bash her on her femininity so if she's a little bit emotional here or there or whatever and it's within you know reasonable limits then let her that that's kind of why she's in the relationship in the first place next is kissing make sure you get good at kissing I'm not gonna go into too much technique here you could probably watch some other videos someplace or basically go practice on a bunch of girls or practice with one girl get good with kissing get good with kissing in different ways give her light soft kisses those would be more intimate you can also do more hard kind of dirty kisses deeper kisses those could be more dominant but basically you know know how to rub her lips rub your lips on her lips gently caress her lips with your lips without even kissing but then you can go into kissing you can also go into a little bit of tongue licking and flicking with your tongue on her lips you can suck on her top lip you can suck on her bottom lip you can suck on both lips there's a lot of different variety that you can do with them with kissing so I'll just let you experiment with that make sure that you get really good and experienced and comfortable of that especially the light and soft kind of kissing that can really melt a girl's heart if you know how to do that right the other thing that you should do is you should do like I said more talking and what I'm talking about here specifically is intimate talk things you can say that build up intimacy what is intimacy a good question a since we're talking about it well really intimacy is this special bond that you're building between you and her right this is what makes your relationship feel like a relationship this is what makes your relationship feels different than the relationship that you have with your guy friends or she has with her girlfriends and the way that you do that basically is by being able to open up to be vulnerable to kind of be caring and loving towards each other and to be building something special that's special connection where you two understand each other on a deep level intimate level you share things about yourself that you normally wouldn't share with anybody else so that's what's really cool about being in an intimate relationship in the first place is that you do get that kind of like deep very raw connection that you don't get with your guy friends and that she doesn't get with her girl friends and you don't get this with your parents or with really anybody in life except your intimate partner so this is a cool thing you have to want this right some guys some guys actually have a lot of difficulty being intimate because they've had screwed-up childhoods or they've been in some terrible relationships that have kind of burned them or whatever and now they're in able and incapable of being intimate well again that's something much deeper that you're gonna have to work out maybe with a therapist or with a life coach or maybe through another video that I'll shoot on that topic but I'm assuming here that you want to be intimate because this is a cool thing so here's intimate talk and intimate talk the secret to it is not so much what you say as the tone with which you say it again it's the tone right your tone is gonna be softer it's gonna be more loving almost like you're reassuring someone imagine that you're talking someone who's just lost someone in their family right and they're crying you want to reassure them you gonna take a very kind of a soft light type of approach it can be very compassionate that's the tone you're taking here and in fact you can do this whispering which is a really great thing especially when you're having sex and she's like right near your mouth like her ears near your mouth or whatever you can whisper something intimate in her ear here's a couple of examples I want to have another video that talks how to specifically do really good turdy talk but I just want to throw out a couple of examples of intimate talk something like hey baby I want to come inside you or hey cutie are you getting all wet for me or something like hey baby I feel so close to you now these might sound a little corny a little bit like sappy a little bit too lovey-dovey but that's the whole idea that's what intimacy is is this lovey-dovey thing now if you're just instantly rejecting this out of hand like oh well Leo I don't want to do that and it's coming you look like a [ __ ] or something I urge you to reconsider because again you're not gonna be doing this the whole time there's gonna be a lot of DOM and stuff that you're gonna do so stuff it's gonna all balance out in the end but you know if all you are is just this like dominating sex machine in the bedroom that's not really what women want women do want this intimacy and they're gonna value a guy who offers them this intimacy much more than one who doesn't because you got to look at a relationship from a woman's perspective from a woman's perspective the thing that she really wants inside her intimate relationship is deep emotional rapport with you her man she doesn't want just sex she doesn't just want a companion or a best friend she wants deep intimacy in her relationship so anyways you know experiment there's a lot of different ways that you can do intimate talk find your favorite phrases you can even sit down and just write stuff out memorize it and then practice it in the bedroom also a great way to build intimacy is with gentle physical touch right like caressing her face gently just slowly gliding your hands over her body stroking her hair getting her a little kiss on the cheek or on the forehead this kind of stuff this is really really really good stuff you know it can be just very subtle stuff but it all adds up and she's gonna be very sensitive to this kind of stuff next is the sex positions so of course probably the most intimate sex position I would say is the most basic one just missionary missionary is great because you're face to face also because you can whisper in her ear also because you've got that strong amazing eye contact also because your bodies are completely pressed together which gives you a real intimate feeling especially when your stomach is pressed against her stomach and you're inside her that's super super intimate so that's really really good stuff make sure that you take full advantage of the missionary position right the way you take advantage of it is that you whisper stuff in our ear while you're in the missionary position next is just a little phrase called I love you women love to hear I love you now depends on where you are in your relationship now if you haven't gotten to the I love you phase yet then don't say it if you don't comfortable feel comfortable saying it or you don't feel like it's honest for you then don't say it but if you're there then make sure that you say I love you and say it a lot and state especially when you're having sex with her and say it especially when you're about to [ __ ] inside her speaking of which if you really want to increase your intimacy a lot then get her to the point where you can be having sex with her without condoms and also where she's on birth control and you can be coming inside of her this is the most intimate thing that you can do is to be coming inside or without a condom so if you can manage that situation not only does that just feel amazing and it's like sex which is ten times better than without a condom but it's super super super intimate and her response to you after you actually come inside her is gonna be very different than if you use a condom right even the chemicals inside your sperm have a physiological response on her even days later when they're absorbed inside her body it's there's some pretty cool science behind that which I won't go into here other stuff you can do to increase intimacy is holding her cuddling with her stuff like holding her hand or cuddling together after sex or before sex or on the couch or whatever I mean personally I love cuddling to me it's an amazing thing it almost as great as sex you should be taking full advantage of this don't skimp on the cuddling especially the moment after you come inside her and you finish sex do not just roll over and fall asleep or walk out of the room or go take a shower or whatever the [ __ ] you usually do what you want to do is you want to cuddle with her spoon her cuddle with her that's gonna build massive massive intimacy and kudo points for you just five minutes of cuddling and you should be doing this for yourself too this is just an amazing feeling you know putting inside a girl then cuddling with her for five or ten minutes or whatever after that is just awesome so hopefully you're doing this if you're not doing this you're missing out on a ton of amazing stuff and your girl is missing out on this kind of amazing stuff and the last thing that I'll say about intimacy is learn how to make your girl squirt squirting is super super super super intimate I have a whole video which is called how to make a girl squirt it's one of my most my most watched videos of all time so go ahead and check that one out search for it that one will teach you exactly the technique and the psychological aspects of how to make a girl squirt you could make virtually any girl squirt if you do it right all it really requires is the building of the intimacy and learning some basic techniques so make sure that you experiment and get that process down get that handled so you can do it with any girl all right so that their covers intimacy now what I want to do is I want to move on to dominance so here are some tips for how to increase dominance and this stuff will feel probably a little bit more natural to you but there's still stuff you can learn here because a lot of guys miss out on this cool dominant stuff see of course a woman wants deep intimacy with her man in her relationship but also what she wants if she wants to know that she's in a relationship with a [ __ ] man a [ __ ] boss the guy who knows what he's doing a leader and the guy who's going to dominate her ass in the bedroom she wants that so the masculine in you brings out the feminine in her and this polarity creates that charge and that fire and that spark which is so hot in a intimate relationship so you want to amp up your masculinity and your dominance and here's how you're gonna do it number one is with your eye contact and here you do it with fierce eye contact you can give an intimate look which is kind of like a soft gentle tan a loving look or even give a fierce kind of like I'm about to stab you in the gut with a knife in prison kind of look I'm about to shank you right that kind of like hmm I want to punch you in the face kind of look but don't go over the top you don't want to look like a like a psycho serial killer you know just give her that kind of like fierce squit your eyes maybe tilt your head down like this and just kind of like give her a really kind of serious look and in your own mind when you look at her like that you should be thinking to yourself that's right I'm gonna [ __ ] your brains out that's the kind of look you want to give her and when you think that and you look at her that way she's gonna feel that women are very sensitive to your internal emotional state and what you communicate here with your eyes they're very sensitive to it subconsciously so you want to use this to great effect if you've got hesitation in your eyes if you've got weakness in your eyes if you're not sure if you're stuck in your head she's gonna read all that off you right that's not a very dominant fierce look a fierce look is very mm I know exactly what I want and I want you and I'm gonna [ __ ] you get ready to be [ __ ] that kind of look the next thing that you can use to increase dominance is oh I love this one it's growling I hope you try this with your girl dude I notice her getting turned on a lot if you try growling what do I mean by growl it's this here that it's like this deep guttural growl sound that you make with the with the bottom of your throat right here in your chest so go ahead and practice that with me right now actually I can't do it that much because if I do it too much my throat starts to get scratchy and sore but you know just a couple of those growls especially like if you're having sex with her and a missionary position her and her her ears are right next to your throat she can actually feel the vibrations from your throat and you give her that growl that's gonna turn her on so much that's like playing up that kind of like a man animalistic I'm gonna dominate you roll that makes you very masculine makes her feel very feminine like she's getting dominated the other thing that I like to do with the growling is that you can also do little growls even outside the bedroom like if you give her a kiss and then you can give her a little growl something like this just a little short little one like that it just has this amazing effect on the women I don't know it just does another cool thing you can do is biting of the neck right this is very primal and animalistic too and you don't want to bite real hard you just want to give her a soft little bite but basically you start kissing her face maybe start kissing with her mouth with her lips then you move down her face then you brush her hair aside and then you just start kissing here along the neck and as you're kissing then you can go in for that bite like that start lightly and then if she can tolerate more then go in harder some women are super super turned on by this because the neck region here is very very sensitive and it's also very intimate but also the same time very dominant this is a very great move the next thing we should talk about is dominant talk I want you to be practicing dominant talk in the bedroom and here's some examples of what dominant talk sounds like again it's not so much about the words you use but about the tonality and your own internal emotional state when you say these words so notice how I say these I'm gonna try to put myself in to have a dominant tonality as I do it I'm a nail a little [ __ ] to the wall I'm gonna [ __ ] your brains out get down on your knees and suck my [ __ ] so you notice how different the tone of these are compared to the stuff that I was saying with the intimate talk right very different basically here you're being authoritative you're being a bit dickish or like an [ __ ] you're basically giving her a command many times hey get down and suck my [ __ ] write the words you choose can also play some importance for example when you say something like [ __ ] that can be a very dominant sounding word when you say it in the right way also when you say that you're gonna [ __ ] her brains out the word [ __ ] is a dominant kind of word so you know choose your words but also save them with authority say them like you're the boss and you should feel like the boss right put yourself in that frame of mind where like you're the boss she's your little sex slave and you've got your dominant talk down right there's so many different variations you could sit down and just spend whole day brainstorming variations and then trying them out with your girl now be careful here I'm not telling you here to actually be dominating your woman in in everyday life that's not what I'm saying I'm not saying here that women should be dominated and that's somehow you're above them and that she's literally your slave or whatever right no in fact what I at kate is a no control attitude towards the woman in your relationship so you actually do not try to control her at all if she wants to leave she leaves if if she wants her way she can get her way but in the bedroom right you're kind of playing a role so these things you tell her you're not taking them too seriously out right this is not this is not licensed to be like an abusive boyfriend that's not what I'm telling you to be so don't make that mistake okay the next point is rough physical touch so we talked about gentle intimate physical touch now let's talk about some rough stuff right so one thing you can do is you can grip her you can grip her arms you can grip her hands you can bind her hands you can grip her thighs you can grip her waist you can grip her neck so there's a lot of different ways that you can grip her of course do it in a way where you're not injuring her or freaking her out which actually brings me to an important point that I should have talked about earlier is that you want to make her feel safe in all this right it's like you two are choosing to play these roles but there's never a sense of like danger for her she never feels like you're really gonna like beat the [ __ ] out of her or whatever she feels safe with you she's getting dominated but she feels completely safe and she trusts you so you have to build that trust and you have to honor that trust I can't be a fake trust that means you know if she's afraid or something's weird or whatever then you back off you're not like forcing yourself on her you're not raping her or any of this kind of stuff right not for real you can play up some rape fantasy but you're not actually raping her very important point okay so let's get back to other physical kinds of rough touch so the other thing you can do is jerk emotions right maybe what you want to do is you want to grab her by the hips and then kind of jerk her hips over to your hips or maybe what you want to do is you want to like grab her by the neck and pull her over like grab her head and pull it down towards you and then make out with her kind of in a rough manner or maybe you want to take her hands and you know throw them above her head or something like that and restrain her um he's kind of like quick jerky motions those can be good just make sure that you don't like hit her head on a coffee table or on a bedpost or something like that you know watch out for her safety because you are leading very very awesome dominant physical touch is the restraining of the hands like for example if you are standing with her next to a wall and what you can do is you can take her hands put them above her head like this and restrain them and then put your hand in between like this as you hold both of them like this and then maybe you're making out with her or you're fingering her or whatever you're doing with her right and you press her hands like this above her head right up against the wall so that's a good way to restrain the hands or maybe you restrain her hands behind her back back behind her butt and you hold them there for a while as you're having sex with her as you're doing something else so those are all really good things the next really cool trick for dominance is ripping off the panties you ever tried this you got a girl and what you do is you rip through her panties this is super dominant I really encourage you to try this it's really hot the only thing is that you don't want to rip through like a super expensive pair of Victoria's Secret panties so maybe you can coordinate with this her with her somehow or maybe you can just kind of keep an eye out for when she's wearing panties that aren't too fancy and what you do is you just rip through those suckers and what that produces that produces the following that ripping sound that ripping sound this this whole thing of ripping our panties off this is almost like playing into the rape fantasy and actually a lot of women have rape fantasies and they want to be dominated now get this confused with actual literal rape I'm not telling you to rape anyone I'm just telling you to play that role with your girl if you think she's gonna be comfortable with it and most girls will love it right one point to keep in mind is that when you're ripping off the panties make sure you do it in a way where you're not actually like ripping the panties on her body when you rip the panties use your own strength and your own two hands to rip them off don't like just pull her panties to one side and just kind of tug on one side of the panties because what it's gonna do is just cut the panties are gonna cut into her thigh or in her butt or even into her [ __ ] or something like that you don't want to do that so make sure that when you rip it you're not gonna be hurting her but that could be real cool move other stuff that you can do is you can tie her up I recommend that you have some way to tie her up that's handy in the bedroom you can buy some soft kind of rope or some sort of like bandage or ribbon type of thing that you can tie her up with a really good trick here is to buy some cheap neckties you can go to Walmart or wherever buy some neckties for $5 and just keep like three or four of them on your bedside in your bedside drawer that's not actually what I have and you can use those neckties in a lot of cool ways if you've got the right type of bed you could tie her to the bed post or to your bed in some manner you can tie her hands you can tie her feet you can you know experiment around with that the other thing you can do is you can tie a necktie around her hands like this and then you can tie a knot on the other end of the necktie just a single knot and what you can do is you can walk up to a door open the door throw the tie knot over the door and then close the door so they're not as stuck on the other end of the door jamb and then what happens is that she's stuck pinned to the door with her hands above her head like this and that's a super intimate dominant and very clever way to tie up a girl which only really requires one tie and a door which every bedroom has so go ahead and experiment with that one there that can be really hot other dominant stuff you can do is you can do the door slam or the wall slam and what this means is that basically you slam her body either her hips and her ass or the back of her shoulders or even her full body into the wall or into the door now you got to be little careful when you do this you don't hurt her maybe what you want to do is you want to put your hand behind her head as you're doing it so that her skull doesn't crash into anything and using the door is more preferable because the door has a bit more softness to it than a wall a wall is very very solid so this is best done with a door also the door is gonna kind of jiggle and the door is gonna produce a sound that's gonna be just hot and dominant sounding it's gonna really sound like a slam you can't really slam her into the wall so much because the walls just so solid you can't do a real forceful slam with the door you get more leeway as far as that goes and basically what you do there is you slammer and then you make out with her and then you pin her up and you basically [ __ ] her up against the wall you can [ __ ] her from the front [ __ ] her from the back you can finger her you can make out with her there's a lot of different variations that can happen there other cool stuff you should experiment with is biting spanking and choking I won't go too much into this but if you're having sex in doggy style make sure you spank her most girls love that most girls you can spank pretty hard so you can just kind of experiment soft spanking it first and then try to go harder and harder and harder and just see how much heat she can take also biting you can not only bite her neck but you can bite other parts of her body her hand her arm and what else the sides of her hips the thighs you know you can find stuff to buy just to be a little careful in the sensitive areas especially on the inner thighs and stuff like that choking you could do some choking especially for example if you pin her up against the wall which you can do is you can take your hand put it across her throat and just kind of press her mm-hmm press her gently and firmly to the wall to the door and choke her a little bit maybe as you're making out with her as your fingering her or something like that again this one is one of those we have to be why of you know a little careful make sure that you are kind of communicating with her eye to eye she feels safe and that you're not actually choking her for real or suffocating her any that kind of stuff I think you get the idea there experiment also with dominant sex positions what are some dominant sex positions well of course doggy styles are really hot dominant one so you should be doing that one that one's really great because you can spank her as you're doing that you can also be grabbing her hips and you could be slamming her hips and her ass into you as you're having sex so that one is really really good you can also do a lot of dirty talk while you're having sex with her in doggy style other dominant positions having sex standing up is really dominant I find and again pinning her up against something like a wall or a bookshelf or a door or whatever else you got around the house like a pillar or a post you know structural column or whatever in your house that can be really really good and you could have sex with her from the front or from behind either of those is really nice and dominant another one that I really like that's really dominant is if you take her and you throw her on to some furniture so for example a great one is a a coffee table or a dinner table ideally what you've got is you've got some sort of large last surface like a dining table which is about waist height for you actually a little bit lower is ideal because she's gonna be lying on top of it you're gonna be standing you're gonna have her legs kind of spread open like this you're gonna be having sex with her that can be a super super dominant and hot position especially when you do it in a way that kind of surprises her like maybe you're just like walking by the kitchen and then you just grab her like River panties off and then you just throw her on the on the table and you're gonna tell you're gonna [ __ ] her brains out and then you just proceeded to do it that can be super super dominant and the the other point that I want to make here is that you should be approaching your sex with a commanding and leading mentality right so one way to play up dominance is just to lead and to command in the bedroom this means that you should be the leader and you should be the one that's initiating stuff in the bedroom what does this mean this means that you command and tell her what to do if you want her to take her panties off you tell her take your panties off in a kind of a dominating authoritative tone right you're not so much asking a question you're giving her a command also you're leading her around so for example if you want to have sex with her on the couch you take her and you lead her to the couch if you want to have sex with her on the bed you take her leader to the bed maybe you even carry her to the bed by picking her up like this and carrying her over right I also be in charge of changing up sexual positions so when you're having sex you're the guy who is responsible for saying when to switch positions so if you're having sex missionary for a few minutes then switch to doggy after you've had sex doggy for five minutes switch to something else then go slam her against the wall then go have sex with her on the floor then go have sex with there on the kitchen counter you know whatever so just kind of do that and then if you want to tie her up pull out your tie and tie her up so your the one who's leading all this stuff don't wait for her to tell you what to do most girls will not do anything in the bedrooms they'll just follow your lead so make sure you're leading and commanding right be sure of yourself when you're doing this stuff one thing that I personally found in my own journey to get good at this because you know I was very inexperienced with sex not until that long ago and so and so one of the things that I started was that you know I was hesitant like I wasn't sure well what if the girl rejects me like what if I go in and kiss her and ask her for sex but then she doesn't want to have sex or what if I try to finger her but then she doesn't want to get fingered or what if I am having doggy style sex with her and I want to go into missionary but I'm like oh well maybe she doesn't want to go into missionary you know what you got to cut all that [ __ ] out and you just got to take off kind of a leadership role and just assume that it's gonna work and ninety-nine percent of the time it will work and she'll just go with you and in fact she'll love the confidence with which you execute right so as soon as a thought into your smile your mind like oh I want to [ __ ] her doggy style just go and do it don't second-guess yourself don't ask yourself whether she's gonna like it don't ask yourself how you're gonna look or whether it's gonna be comfortable or even whether the position is gonna work or not that's one that I got tripped up on a lot is that I would say to myself well what if this position isn't comfortable or what if you know like she's too short for doggy style with me or maybe she's too tall or whatever just go try it right women will forgive you if you try something with confidence and it doesn't work then you can just say oh well it didn't work and you just move on to the next thing and it's fine what they won't forgive you for is when you're weak and meek and you're hesitating and you're stuck in your head and you're worrying and you're asking her if if she's gonna like this or if she's gonna like that don't do that stuff just do it assuming she's gonna like it and in most cases she will and everything's gonna come out great actually while I'm on this point this really reminds me of a a really core kind of uh philosophy that I want you to bring to the bedroom in the bedroom you're the man and what you are doing is that you're ravishing your girl that's how I want you to be thinking about this you're gonna ravish her so whatever comes to your mind you know within reason whatever comes to your mind you just do it right because this is an authentic expression of you you're this penetrating force you're penetrating out with your dick of course you are with your dick but even more so with your mind and your intellect and your will that's what you're really penetrating her with right you're [ __ ] her with your eyes you're [ __ ] her with your commanding I will you're the boss so be the boss so however you want to [ __ ] her just [ __ ] her that way let yourself go and just trust that it's gonna work out now if you're if you're a really perverse far-out their person you want to do some really kinky [ __ ] with her that you might want to be a little bit more hesitant with I'm talking about just basic kind of stuff that's very normal in the bedroom right normal sex positions and all the stuff I talked about here most girls love love love this stuff so you don't have to second-guess on this stuff now if you want to like have her have sex with a donkey that one you will have to go a little bit slower on to see if she's gonna like that or whatever so you know the basic stuff is uh is all free for you to try without hesitation now what I suggest here those were all the tips I had for how to be dominant right so now what you've got is you're left with all the tips for intimacy and all the tips for dominance what I suggest now is that you create what I call the sweet and sour combo the sweetness our combo is when you say something really intimate or you do something really intimate and you follow it up with something really dominant so what's an example of this well you might say something like this intimacy hey baby I love you you know that right and you look are deep in the eyes and then right after you follow it up with dominant and you say something like I'm gonna [ __ ] your brains out like you're my dirty little [ __ ] see you mix them together sweet kind of sour maybe a little sweet and dominant or bitter or whatever you want to call it and then you just keep that dynamic going and you kind of alternate it throughout your sex with her and that will turn out really really good now the last element that really makes sex amazing is variety variety surprise and adventure so don't be having sex with her the same way all the time what I recommend is that you start with my basic formula and I've given here lots of different ideas for how to spice up my basic formula my basic formula is presented in part one of this video series part two here we talked about a lot of ways that you can customize stuff right you can spend the next year practicing all this stuff and not master at all there's so much stuff to try here you can't try all this in one session you're gonna need to spread it all out try different stuff you don't need to whip out everything in one session right make sure you understand that and basically what you do is you sprinkle it around you change it around you customize it and you create variety so that means that maybe one night is a really deep intimate night and you have some like slow steamy intimate sex another night is more of a dominant animalistic you have sex with her in the you know in the in the bar bathroom kind of sex and that could be you know really nice way to spice stuff up it can be a little surprising adventurous then the next night you just might be a little bit more kind of a mix between the two which is kind of what I'm telling you here the standard formula and you know you keep varying stuff up and you change stuff up don't be having this the same sex in the same positions all the time don't be telling her the exact same things every single time you have sex don't be having sex in the exact same place all the time because sex can get old and stale pretty quickly so you need be getting creative and clever and need to be flexible and also you know you just sprinkle in that variety deliberately this does not happen accidentally you have to put some thought into have to sometimes plan this stuff out you have to be thinking about where you're gonna be when you're having sex and do you have all the stuff you need there and where can you take her to a new place and this kind of stuff right so you're the man you're kind of responsible for leading and setting the pace and making sure that everything's in place that needs to be in place for stuff to happen so wow you know that's a lot of stuff there's so much stuff here and there's a lot of more stuff that I could talk about but this video is already running pretty long so I think this gives you a lot of very tangible things right I went out of my way here to give you very concrete tangible things so you can go out and practice right now and what I hope here is I hope that you get the the fundamental principles behind the little techniques the principles are very simply intimacy dominance and then lastly variety those are really the three principles that we're working with here so now you can use these principles and you can find your own specific techniques that you can add into the mix that I gave you right you can find your own ways to be intimate you can find your own clever ways to be dominant and you can find your own clever ways to add variety adventure into your sex so go ahead and start practicing this stuff if you don't know how to start well you need to start with a girlfriend or someone have sex with it's hard to practice this stuff on one-night stands because it's just such an awkward situation you usually are pressed for time the best way to practice is to get a girlfriend one that's kind of sexually curious and adventurous and then just start having lots of sex with her and at nighttime you have sex but at daytime what you do is you sit down and you actually plan what kind of sex you want to have not with her but just with yourself you can do it with her too but just with your you know tell yourself oh well today I want to go have sex with her in the park and tomorrow I want to have some really intimate sex with her and then the next day on the weekend I want to tie her up and maybe do some squirting or whatever just start playing around with it and you'll find that you know after six to twelve months of this kind of practice you're gonna become just a connoisseur a master in the bedroom it doesn't take that much practice to get really good right the most important thing is that you're just curious you're open you want to have a great experience you want to create a great experience for yourself and for the girl and that you actually like pleasing the knurl I think that the problem that most guys have is that they just don't care about pleasing the girl in the bedroom right that's a big no-no with me for me the whole point of this amazing sex is that I get to create this amazing experience for her and I get to see the smile on her face and then she wants to please me and it's just like a win-win situation and it just turns out amazing for the both of us so I hope that this sparked some ideas in you go ahead and try this out and I'm gonna be signing off this is Leo I'm done here go ahead post your comments down below click the like button please share this video with a friend or maybe with your girlfriend or boyfriend or whoever your intimate partner and come sign up lastly to my newsletter the actualized orgs newsletter is free there's some cool 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